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8 easy ways to boost sperm quality and count

The term ‘healthy sperms’ indicates that the sperms are abundant in number, with at least 15 million sperm cells present in one mililitre of semen sample (40 million/ejaculate), they have a normal shape and structure and they have their motility intact. If any one of these qualities in majority of your sperms is missing, they are unhealthy. If you have unhealthy sperms you could be impotent and infertile and your sex drive could be lowered. Since all these aspects are directly linked to male sexuality and can severely affect your sex life, you would definitely want to prevent deterioration of your sperm health. So, here are some key steps to boost your sperm quality and quantity.
Eat right: This has to be the first step if you want to keep your fertility intact. The effects of eating unhealthy junk food may not be evident right away but it’s going to affect your reproductive system in the long run. This could be one of the reasons why more and more number of men are now suffering from erectile dysfunction and infertility. A simple, healthy diet rich in protein, fruits, vegetables and fibre can do wonders to your reproductive health. You could try these 7 inexpensive food items to boost your fertility.
Exercise: Your sperm quality is bound to degrade with age. But if you keep yourself active when you’re young, you will not face too many problems in your sex life later. Being too thin and too fat, both have been linked to significantly low levels of testosterone, loss of interest in sex and poor erections. So, exercise well and lose some weight if needed. Remember, too much of exercising can also affect your fertility. So, keep it moderate.
Reduce your alcohol intake: There is a lot of evidence suggesting that heavy alcohol consumption can cause infertility in men. According to a study, having more than one drink every day can lower secretion of testosterone, the male reproductive hormone required for healthy sperm production, and increased sex drive or libido. Another study showed that 5 units of alcohol can trigger changes in levels of reproductive hormones and degrade sperm quality in young men. Besides, alcohol can change also the structure of your sperms and make them immotile.
Cut on tobacco: If you smoke, you must quit for your sperm’s sake. Cigarette smoke contains carcinogens like cadmium, lead and benzo-a-pyrene. Smoking one pack of cigarettes can significantly increase the level of cadmium in your semen, while lowering the zinc levels. Cadmium can damage the DNA of your sperms, killing them, reducing them in number.
Say no to recreational drugs: Recreational drugs like marijuana and cocaine have been linked to the inability to perform sexually, leading to infertility. It can cause lowered seminal fluid production, lowered blood supply to the penis, poor sperm quality and lowered sperm count. So, it’s better that you stay away from them. (Read: Do protein supplements affect sperm count? (Sex query of the day)
Don’t stress: A healthy mind is the key to a healthy body. If you keep your mind occupied for tackling unnecessary stress, all the functions of your body will get affected and so will your sexual organs. A high level of stress hormones in the blood can lower sperm count, affect sperm production and also affect your sperm quality. (Here are 10 yoga poses to beat premature ejaculation)
Have safe sex: Unsafe sex increases the chances of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and STDs directly affect sperm production motility. This is because the pathogens can enter the testis and affect spermatogenesis. Sometimes, the toxins released by these pathogens can directly affect the sperm DNA.
Minimise exposure to heat: Some studies have linked increased exposure to heat with lowered sperm count. So, if you’re planning to become a father, make sure you stay away from hot bathtubs, hot showers and Jacuzzis for a while. Using them for a long time can obstruct your testicles and harm healthy sperms.

Top 5 reasons women fake an orgasm during sex

Did you know that over 95% of women who have given birth have never experienced an orgasm from penetration? Meaning the penis has never been able to make them orgasm in their life! Most men would never believe this. Most men will insist that every woman they have had sex with has experienced many orgasms during sexual intercourse. It’s not their fault as men are meant to think that they are pleasuring a woman and satisfying her. The reason why they don’t realise it is because women are very good at faking orgasms. Also read top 5 orgasm myths.
Why do women fake orgasms?
A woman’s orgasm is totally different from a man’s orgasm.  A man tries to delay ejaculation, while a woman tries to force it to happen. Here are a few reasons women fake it.
Women fake it to protect men’s pride
Without ever learning it or having a discussion, women tend to fake orgasms to protect a man’s pride and confidence. A woman will pretend that she has sexually climaxed so the man can feel like he’s done a good job and can ejaculate and remain confident for sexual experiences in the future. Here are 10 things women wish men knew about sex.
Many women do not know how to reach an orgasm
So why don’t women do the same for their sexual satisfaction and pleasure? With the female orgasm and female erection being far more complex compared to that of a man, it is not surprising that not only men but women simply don’t know how to reach an orgasm from sexual penetration.
Clitoris is not stimulated enough
The fact of the matter is that just like a man, a woman also needs an erection in order to orgasm from sexual penetration. Unlike a man who can become erect from a simple sight, sound, thought or memory, the only way for a woman to have a female erection is by reaching the climax phase of an orgasm which can only happen from stimulating the outer clitoris. This is why foreplay is also important.
All orgasms for a woman come from clitoral stimulation. Performing foreplay is rubbing the outer clitoris which makes a woman reach orgasm. Just because a woman can orgasm from rubbing and licking her clitoris does not mean that she will be able to orgasm from penis penetrating the vagina. Here are things you ought to know about the clitoris.
The sex is bad
Even when the sex feels bad and she knows she will not be satisfied at all, a woman is more likely to fake an orgasm or pretend that it’s so good she can handle it. She might even pretend, his penis feels too big or intense that she can’t take it anymore. Instead of breaking his sexual confidence she will fake pleasure just to speed up the process and get it over with.
Pregnancy does not depend on a woman’s orgasm
Unlike men, it is not necessary for a woman to orgasm in order to get pregnant. For this reason nature has made men easily able to orgasm whereas women have much more intense orgasms and have the potential to have multiple orgasms but they are difficult to come by.
Functioning as nature intends, man would never pretend to orgasm. Unlike a woman, a man will do whatever it takes to make sure that he ejaculates. Until the man reaches ejaculation, sex is not complete. Read 10 ways to give your women multiple orgasms.
What men should learn
Majority of men would disagree with this article that is evidence of how well a woman is able to fake an orgasm and how male confidence has been maintained. Although it does not help with women’s sexual satisfaction to continue faking orgasms, it is still done because teaching a man how to make a woman orgasm can be very difficult especially when women themselves don’t always understand how it works.
Now you might be asking yourself, if most women do not orgasm from the penis, how do they enjoy sex? What makes sex satisfying for women?
Just because she faked it doesn’t mean she didn’t enjoy the sex. Women are influenced by their hormones which constantly change throughout the monthly fertility cycle. Some days sex can be satisfying without an orgasm, other days she won’t even want to have an orgasm. Studies show that women want an orgasm the most on the days they are ovulating (the 2-4 days in the month that she is fertile). Also read – sex without penis, it’s possible.
In my next article I will explain how the female orgasm works… how to make a woman orgasm and how a woman’s orgasm contributes to sexual reproduction as well as enhancing the sexual experience not only for the women but also for the man. Watch this space.

 

 

 

 

Natural remedies to last longer in bed and extend your sex time

How do I last longer in bed’ is one of the most common queries we get on the site. We do not know whether the people who ask this question have a wrong perception of how long they need to last or actually have a serious problem like premature ejaculation.
Unlike what you see in porn, the average time for men during intercourse is 5-10 minutes, while the whole act from seduction to the end of actual intercourse may last around 30 minutes.
If you clock anywhere below 3 minutes,
you perhaps need help. You could try some of the things listed below:
1. Eat more veggies and fruits: Yes, studies have actually shown that men who are mostly vegetarian last much longer in bed than non-vegetarians. They have more stamina due to the nutrients they get from these fruits and veggies, especially potassium.
a. Eating a banana just before sex could help improve your performance as it contains potassium. It also supplies a good amount of glucose. Read more about health benefits of bananas.
b. Drinking amla or gooseberry juice everyday could help you last longer in bed and also improve sperm quality as it has a good amount of iron and zinc.
c. Eat a handful of strawberries before intercourse. Its high zinc content and glucose concentration can help you last longer. Here are 8 rocking sex tips by porn stars.
2. Avoid processed sugar: The ‘sugar slump’ that comes after a ‘sugar rush’ could reduce your stamina.
3. Cut down on smoking: It hardens your arteries and lessens blood flow to the penis.  According to men’s health Physician and Medical Sex Therapist DrVijayasarathi Ramanathan, ‘Smoking affects every system/organ of the body including sexual functioning. People need to understand that erection in men has a lot to do with a healthy heart, blood vessels. Smokers are twice as likely to get erectile dysfunction as non-smokers.’
4. Reduce alcohol intake: Alcohol has a bad effect on your senses and you are not ‘fully’ in the moment. So, exerting control is out of question, isn’t it?
5. Work on your arms and abdominal muscles: Most of the sexual positions require the man to be on his hands and feet. This means his core has to be very strong in order to last longer. So, working on biceps, triceps and abs at the gym or body-weight exercises at home can help. Exercise also improves blood flow in general including to the penis and this could also help.
6. Try Kegels or pelvic floor exercises: These exercises are mostly used for gaining better bladder control, but also help in maintaining erections for longer. Imagine you are urinating and then try to stop the flow. Repeat this – squeeze, hold, release cycle 10 times, trying to hold for 10 seconds per squeeze.
7. Try biofeedback or ‘edging’: When you are almost there (during intercourse or masturbation), stop all sexual activity. Distract yourself for a bit. This way you can gain better control and extend sex time.
8. Try the squeeze technique: When you are almost about to orgasm, squeeze just below the head of the penis. This pushes the blood back from the penis giving you more time.
9. Focus more on foreplay and your woman: Sometimes, trying to get her to orgasm first with either your fingers or your mouth could help relieve your stress and help maintain your erection longer.
10. Get enough sleep: According to a research conducted by researchers from University of Chicago, men who got less than five hours of sleep at night had lower levels of testosterone. It is important that you get 7-8 hours of sleep to boost your sexual performance.
11. Try yoga: Certain yoga asanas like the cobra pose (bhujangasana), paschimotasana can increase blood flow to the genital area and increase the time you last in bed.